We all know situation when we are up to something . . . and the mind is racing. There is a lot of „what if’s”. What if I ran out money, what if I don’t make it in time, what if she turns my proposal down.
But there is quite a possible part . . . what if she said yes. That will be something . . . amazing, but supposedly more stressful. And that could be the reason that why most of the people cannot find the courage to go on trying or even they do not try at all.
But why are afraid to go for something?
Indeed, when she says no, then will nothing happen, all will remain in a rut. No change, so I have nothing to lose. Only my pride, but that one I create by myself, so there is always a lot in a stock . It seems that fear of rejection is not very good reason, because there’s nothing to lose.
The challenge is what if she says yes, what if my idea will work, what if I’ll actually make it? What to do then? And there comes the worries on the scene.
I think this is the big reason why a lot of people are afraid to do what they want. We all like a rut, the way of things we are used to. We dream about change, about what if’s, but when the opportunity is there big number of us just freeze.
Very few people embrace changes, basically most people like status quo. It gives us a sense of security – we know what can we expect, nothing bad could happen because we know how to react. I think the key to act towards fulfill our idea is dissatisfaction with our current situation. But not only dissatisfaction, but even hate towards it. If my current situation is bearable, then I will never know what could happen if I ask, if I do what I am dreaming of. Because fear of the unknown is bigger than a current terrible (but still bearable) situation.
I am an employee, who dreaming about my own company, I know it could be great . . . the passion, the money, free time . . . but I am too afraid of necessary changes . . . I will lose my regular money every month, I will have to learn a lot legal acts, deal with various people, and if i do not do it right I can lose everything.
But what if . . .
I ask her? Do i believe that am I capable to perform all necessary changes? I think I am . . . No! The right answer is: Of course I am and so do you. I believe than when some idea pop in your mind is there because you are capable of make it happen. There is for a reason. Some people never get an idea to write an excellent music, other never get an idea how to save a whales in the ocean and some people never get an idea how to improve theirs life. On other side, some of us know how to do it. They get idea and make it happen. As well as I, you know what you know what you should do and why . . . You feel it. And believe, there is something far worse than a possible fail. It is a lifetime pondering about what could happen if I did it when I had a chance. And if you actually will make your idea alive that is the best feeling.
The best advice for breakthrough in this case is to follow this quote by Bill Cosby:
Decide that you want it more than you are afraid of it.